I came across a beautiful essay on anger management which I wanted to share with you all.The method works, trust me.I have added images to make the narrative interesting.
Thich Nhat Hanh
All this material is from "Peace is Every Step" by Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Buddhist monk whois one of humanity's greatest spiritual resources.
He was, amongother things, responsible for getting Martin Luther King to comeout against the Vietnam War (a very controversial move for him atthe time). King nominated him for the Nobel Peace Prize for hiswork (unfortunately futile) for peace in Vietnam. He is the authorof *numerous* books, all of them lovely and wonderful, among them"Being Peace" and "The Miracle of Mindfulness". Here's some ofwhat he has to say about anger:
"Anger is an unpleasant feeling. It is like a blazing flame that burns up our self-control and causes us to say and do things that we regret later. When someone is angry, we can see clearly that he or she is abiding in hell. Anger and hatred are the materials from which hell is made. A mind without anger is cool, fresh and sane. The absence of anger is the basis of real happiness, the basis of love and compassion.
When our anger is placed under the lamp of mindfulnes, it immediately begins to lose some of its destructive nature. We can say to ourselves, 'Breathing in, I know that anger is in me. Breathing out, I know that I am my anger.' If we follow our breathing closely while we identify and mindfully observe our anger, it can no longer monopolize our consciousness.
Awareness can be called upon to be a companion for our anger. Our awareness of our anger does not suppress it or drive it out. It just looks after it. This is a very important principle. Mindfulness is not a judge. it is more like an older sister looking after and comforting her younger sister in an affectionate and caring way. We can concentrate on our breathing in order to maintain this mindfulness and know ourselves...